Office of Conciliation - Archdiocese of Chicago

F.Y.I.R. - For Your Information and Reflection

When Gridlock Happens

When all else fails…

  • Agree to disagree
  • Accept and work with the polarities*
  • Avoid repeating the mistakes of the past
  • Maintain integrity and congruency
  • Work hard to maintain a satisfying relationship
  • Maintain and nurture “the value set”
    • Unconditional positive regard for the other
    • Commitment to the relationship
    • “Prizing the differences” between us as differing gifts yet…
    • Maintaining your own congruence

*Some continuous matters are not problems to be solved but polarities to be managed AKA not “either-or” but “both-and”