6 Steps in Helping Children Solve Their Problems
- Use reflective listening to understand and clarify the child's feelings:
- You're angry…
- It seems to me you feel…
- Explore alternatives through brainstorming:
- Shall we look at some things we could do about this?
- If you are interested in getting along better with your teacher, what are some things you could do?
- Assist the child to choose a solution:
- Which idea do you think is the best one?
- Discuss the probable results of the decision:
- What do you think will happen if you do that?
- Obtain a comment:
- What have you decided to do?
- When are you going to do this?
- Plan a time for evaluation:
- How long will you do this?
- When shall we discuss this again?
Source: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting, Parent's handbook, Don Dinkmeyer & Gary D. McKay